Using memories to control fear of flying

[Iberia Airlines]

In a recent post, I explained that it’s possible to build links inside the mind that will provide automatic calming when flying. To do that, you need to find the memory of a moment linked to a key individual in your life – family member, friend, whoever it might be – when you sensed that person was safe not just physically, but emotionally. You will need to recall a moment when he or she was not critical, was not competitive, and was not being judgmental in any way. When you recall such a moment, bring it to mind. As the memory becomes more vivid, you may feel your guard being let down. Neurological researcher Stephen Porges has found that if the signals being sent between you and another person are just right, your heart will slow down, even if stress hormones are present. Your parasympathetic nervous system – the system that calms you throughout your mind and body – becomes active.

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